Multiple Moms?

Caution: This blog post could be a touchy subject
[Once again, not everyone may share my opinions.]

The boy with multiple moms. 

Our son will have multiple moms. Each mom will have a different role in his life. Each mom will be important to his life story in her own way...

 He will have me, his mom.  You may have noticed that I didn't put "adoptive mom". I did that on purpose.  I won't consider him my adoptive son, he'll be my plain ol', normal son.  I will be the mom that nurtures and cares for him after we take custody.  I'll be the momma that gets to kiss his boo boos, cheer for his first t-ball game, and tuck him in at night.  I will get to watch him grow each and everyday.

He will have his biological mother.  We have chosen to call her his Korean mom.  The word "birthmom" almost gives her the sense of just a vessel that carried him.  To us the word takes away from her importance.  [This is just our opinion for our family.  No judgement if you use the word.]  We want our son to know that she is important in his life story.  That she carried him in her body for 40 weeks.   She brought him into this world.  That's a pretty big deal.  We will never hide her from him or act like she didn't or doesn't exist.  We plan to always keep her in our prayers.

 He will also have his Foster mom.  We will call her Omma, which is the term for mom in Korean. This is the mom that raised him and loved him for over a year of his life.  His foster parents are the ones that are taking him to all of his first appointments.  Omma is the one that snuggles him to sleep each night.  She is the one that will most likely see his first steps.  I don't think words can express how appreciative we are of his foster family.  [This is the family that he is living with now.  They will care for him until we take custody.  God has a special place in Heaven for these ladies.  We plan to keep contact with this family for as long as we possibly can.  Some families send cards and pictures, others get lucky and their foster families have Facebook...one can only hope.]  This is one of the ways we hope to keep ties to his birth country.  


All three moms just as important as the other.  Each of us women will play a different part in his life.  We plan to respect and honor these women (and men) throughout his life.  Will there be times of pain and doubt in regard to all three of his moms, I'm sure.